I hope this will be my final update on the issue of the TOSLINK connector

I also hope this information might help someone else.
I was able to remove and replace the broken TOSLINK connector and replace it with the alternate Canadian part that I had ordered previously.
XITE was tested and is functioning normally. In my case, I replaced a receiving connector (ADAT B in). I checked to make sure signals were passing correctly from my A16. All appears normal.
I am not 100% sure about the mfg of the replacement part but I believe it is this company:
http://www.hy1688.com.tw/english/hy_en_index.htm
As mentioned previously, parts were purchased through this Canadian company:
http://www.sysconcept.ca/
If there is a US source for this part I'm not aware. I paid approx $10 USD per part. Shipping was rather expensive coming from Canada but I'm not complaining.
Removing the damaged connector from XITE was XITE-ing to say the least. I'm a pretty good solderer and have a lot of experience which helped. I will tell you that removing the damaged connector wasn't easy. There are 5 leads that have to be unsoldered and they are small, thin leads which pass through the PCB. Removing the solder from the holes wasn't working initially so I ended up breaking the old connector housing (cutting/crushing it into pieces which wasn't too hard ), leaving the copper leads exposed. Removing the remaining "exposed" leads was easy at that point. The next challenge was removing the excess solder from the 5 small PCB holes. This is a double-sided PCB so there are solder pads on both sides of the board (not sure if it's a multi-layer board but I don't think it is). If you're going to attempt this, you will definitely need flux and solder wick. A solder sucker and the ol' "heat and tap" method wasn't working for me. These holes are too small. Even with solder wick it was a challenge. I was trying not to damage the PCB traces. Be very careful and patient if you do this. I ended up using a small sewing needle to finish clearing out the holes.
Anyway, once I got the holes cleared of excess solder, the new part plopped right in. I noticed right away that the new part was a tad taller than the other connectors. I did an eye-ball fit with the XITE cover to see if the new connector would line-up properly with the back panel openings. It was very close but still too tall. The solution was to trim away 4 smallish plastic bumps on the bottom of the TOSLINK housing. Easily trimmed away with an X-Acto knife. Once I did that, the new connector was exactly the same height as the other connectors.
The replacement connector uses a removable plastic plug (instead of the swinging shutter or door). But I don't care. I thought briefly about replacing ALL the connectors with the new type but if it ain't broke don't fix it. lol. I'm going to let the unit burn-in for a few days and keep watching just to make sure all is well. I don't know what to expect as far as component life is concerned. I don't know what the longevity of these TOSLINK connectors is under normal operating conditions. Like anything electronic, I'm sure they have a life span. There was nothing in the technical data to specify life time in hours so who knows.
I am happy to close the book on this nonsense. I do not regret the effort involved. If it means I don't have to deal with random pops or clicks in my recordings anymore, it will have been time and money well spent. I'm pissed I broke that connector in the first place but I'm over it now lol. Anyway, that's the end of my story. Cheers.