Astroman, 24 years! Again it’s a lot of time… I’m surprised at how many of you have been a long time with their respective wifes… It’s not a widespread practice today is it?. I’m glad you are together again, seriously.
I think that when you get married, knowing clearly that no human being is perfect, you are rather likely to be successful in the long term, through the years, unless there is a third person in between, which is something impossible to tackle.
Getting in love is fantastic, one of the most beautiful experiences a human begin can go through. But yes… not everything will be fun or nice all the time, life itself it’s quite difficult and sometimes tremendously disconcerting.
But through experience I have learned something: we need to treat our respective girls like people, not like girls, this is the first rule to me. I think they need for you to be a friend, first of all, loosing a bit the identity male-female, now and then... This way you get closed, heart to heart, and she starts believing in you, so respect and trust is born. That sounds dreamy, but it’s true man, it’s true! I listen to her attentively while she gives me some insights, even when she is telling me I’m wrong, which is perfectly possible, right? Listening and pondering what she says truly changes the entire feeling of the relationship. If I do this with her or a member of my family it always works marvels.
Thanks very much for your wishes, I’m going to pass them all to her… thanks…
