Since I do not know exactly what to call this I will explain it in as best as I can, I have tried a few way to achieve the result I am looking for with fair resuslts but not perfect so here goes

What I am trying to do is have soft or a reversed reflection of a kick drum, but the reflection cant have the thump of the kick its supposed to be more like a reverb that plays in between the kick, this is a commonly used technic in dance music, mainly 4/4 style kick drum patters.
So it looks like this:
(1)Kick/reflects(2)kick/reflect(3)kick/reflect(4)kick/reflect
The reflect or what ever you would call this comes in on the down beat like an open hat would. The way I have tried to achieve this sound is to use a verb and tweak the predelay far enough that it comes in where the hat would, but even with that it still sounds to abrupt, it needs to be ramped like a reverse kick but just the verb sound of it.
I hope I explained this well enough, if you want a perfect idea of what I am talking about listen to " Tiesto's Traffic " he uses the sound on the kick and a 909 closed hat and when its all going together it really fills in the holes to give the track a more big room sound, nice trick just cant get exactly what I am looking for, any one know exactly how to do this?
Cheers!